Separation Anxiety

It’s hard to believe that summer is almost over and children are soon headed back to school!  Separation anxiety is common as children start at new schools or transition to a new classroom.  With change can come fears of the unknown- even for those children who have been going to school for a while.  I have found over the years that the drop-off process is often harder on the parents than the children.  Here are some helpful hints to make it a successful experience for all!

*This year I am also learning how to navigate the drop-off transition with my son, Kielson.  One thing that has been especially helpful for him is to bring a buddy to school, such as a stuffed animal.  Curious George was lovingly packed in Kielson’s bag each day he went to his new camp- George was a great comfort to both of us!

*Together with your child, come up with a special goodbye ritual and stick to it.  The more your child can anticipate what will happen, the safer they will feel (this is especially true for younger children).  Some examples are: a “family handshake”, a high five, or a kiss + hug combo when it’s time to say goodbye.

*Avoid the “double goodbye”!  Many parents say goodbye, walk out, only to return because their child is calling for them.  I can assure you that returning only makes it worse in the long run. When you say you are going to leave it is important to follow through- remember, “short + sweet” is best!

*Calm, cool and collected- The more you can project confidence that your child will be fine and have a good time the better as they will take their cue from you.  Try to project an easygoing and casual attitude about this new experience.

*Lastly, be excited!  Help your child to find something really neat and different about their new school experience.  “Come check out this blue playdough!  I wonder what it will feel like on your fingers…Will you let me know when I pick you up at school after snack?”